Lunch and Learn: Limits and Boundaries, COVID-19 Edition

In this Lunch and Learn I talk about what are boundaries, how to identify them and how to communicate them effectively (first video). I also update commonly held beliefs about boundaries and share with you 5 tips that you can start using right away (second video).

Brief Summary of the Content

Common beliefs that hinder your ability to use boundaries effectively:

  • People should know my boundaries.

  • Boundaries are selfish.

  • I should be kind and accommodating.

  • If I set a boundary, I will hurt the relationship.

  • If I set a boundary, the other person will be angry with me.

Empowering beliefs to hold around boundaries:

  • It is my responsibility to clearly and assertively communicate my boundaries.

  • Boundaries go both ways, and help relationships be mutually respectful.

  • I can be kind and I do not need to be accommodating.

  • Setting a boundary helps strengthen relationships.

  • Boundaries keep people who want to take advantage of me out of my emotional and personal life.

5 Tips to Start Applying Today:

  1. Identify your needs to stay mentally, physically and socially healthy during COVID.

  2. Know what boundary violations feel like for you.

  3. Practice saying no in low-stake situations.

  4. Don’t say yes, if you can’t say no. And, if you have to say yes, set the terms.

  5. Proactively articulate your boundaries.

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